Robin Kessler - Competency Speaker and HR Consultant

Making mistakes

In Uncategorized on March 28, 2011 at 11:40 pm

One of the songs I remember hearing when I was growing up included the line:  Mama said there’d be days like this. The Shirelles?

We all have days like this every now and then.  Days when you realize that you didn’t do your best on an assignment or procrastinated on something too long.

Part of emotional intelligence is recognizing we are not perfect and giving ourselves permission to make mistakes and even fail at certain things.

You can’t succeed at many new challenges without doing them badly the first time you try, and then learning what you need to do to improve. Think about when you started learning to play golf or tennis or a musical instrument.

 Stanford psychology professor Carol Dweck, in her book, Mindset, explains the difference between those with a fixed mindset, who give up when something gets too difficult, and those with a growth mindset, who keep trying.

So if you had a day like mine, it is okay to be frustrated about it. You can’t, as a coach, connect as well with every client. But the important thing to do is to use your best growth mindset to recognize you can learn from each experience and keep trying.

Remember Scarlet O’Hara’s last line in Gone with the Wind. Tomorrow is another day.

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