Robin Kessler - Competency Speaker and HR Consultant

People and competencies

In Uncategorized on December 20, 2010 at 11:47 pm

When most of us think about competencies, we tend to think first about work. What are the key characteristics that it takes to be extremely successful in our organizations?

But we can also ask this question about our relationships. What does it take to be successful in a friendship…or in a romantic relationship?

When I look at the list of the ten most frequently used competencies, I can’t help but realize that many of them – achievement/results orientation, initiative, impact and influence, customer service orientation, interpersonal understanding, organizational (or extended family) awareness, information seeking and integrity – also affect how successful our friendships and romantic relationships are.

So when we consider which competencies we want to develop next year, we may want to think about our goals for our relationships…in addition to our work.

As we approach the end of the holiday season, I want to thank the important people in my life who have taken the initiative to stay in touch and be supportive, given me honest high integrity advice, influenced me in a positive way, understood the craziness and accepted me for who I am.  What are the goals that we can set to be stronger in these competency areas ourselves?

Learn from the people you know who seem to get it right most of the time. Remember, past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior. Read books from recognized experts. Take classes. Ask questions. And whenever you start to think you know it all, start over again. We all can learn to be more emotionally intelligent in 2011.


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